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I see you, mom! I know you are moving through the day to day of taking care of your family, home, and job. But have you first taken care of yourself?!? Let summer be that time to slow down and make yourself a priority. Here are a few things that have helped me handle the #momlife juggle that I hope can help you, too.
10 Tips for Moms to Thrive this Summer & In Life
1. Learn to say NO
As Moms, most of feel like we always need to say yes to everything. Yes, I will be on the PTA committee, I will bring cupcakes for the whole class, I will teach Vacation Bible School, I will plan all of the class parties. You get the idea!
I am not sure why we do this. Do we feel that we will be judged by other Moms if we say No? I want you to think about each time you are saying Yes to someone or something, you are saying No to yourself. There will be times where we want to say yes but are we agreeing to do something because we feel obligated? Let’s all agree to stop saying yes to everything but really say yes to things that matter to us, to the things that serve us or our family.
How many of you have that friend that says they are going to the grocery store or Target all alone? What about the friend that goes to the coffee shop with a good book to sit and read alone? Do you think I am so jealous they get time alone?
Time for just you is so important. Taking time to fill your own cup up should be a priority.
Don’t let your excuse be that I don’t have anyone to watch my kids or I don’t have the money to go and do something. That is where finding your tribe is necessary. Reach out to one of your BFFs that you know needs a break and swap kids so that you can each have some alone time. Filling your cup back up does not have to cost a cent but can make a huge difference in you being present with your family and helping you thrive and rock motherhood the best you can.
Need some free ideas?
Go to the library and read a book, take a walk or hike on the greenway, or just go back at home and curl up on the couch with a glass of wine and watch your favorite TV shows alone!
3. Be Present
How many times a day do you feel like you are just trying to get from one task to the next? Do you find yourself trying to do too many things at one time? Making lunch with the kids while checking your email or driving in the car and returning that phone call.
Instead of multitasking, let’s be present in as many tasks during the day that we can. I hear ya but it is the only time that I can get it done. How about involving your kids in these daily tasks so that they can learn responsibility and help with the chores?
I love to sit down Sunday night and look through my calendar. I will chat with my husband about what our week looks like. I will plan what we are going to eat that week so we don’t find ourselves eating out every dinner because we didn’t plan or that we forgot one child had practice that we missed. Guess what else I plan?
Time for just me!! Even if it is only 15 min a day I plan my time.
Raise your hands Mom if you dream! Raise your hands if you share your dreams with your spouse and your children! Raise your hand if you have a vision board! How many of you still have your hands raised?
I do! My kids know most of what is on my board. Some of the dreams involve them, some are just for me and some are for my husband and I together. Dreaming about the future is one of my favorite things to do. I live in the moment as much as I can but I really love having my dreams on my vision board. It is so fun to see what I want to do on that board and plan so that I can achieve those goals. If you don’t clearly define your dreams and what you want out of life, then you may sit back and watch others check their items on their vision board.
6. Find your Tribe
Moms we should not be doing life alone. The old saying that it takes a village is so true. Surround yourself with other Moms who are doing life with you and be there for each other. Plan to help each other out. Plan nights out with just the important ladies in your life.
Love them hard and lift them up!!
Be a cheerleader to them when they need you. Share coffee with them when you are about to pull your hair because little Johnny wrote all of over the bathroom walls with a sharpie. Life is going to happen. Find your tribe that will always have your back. Plus a glass of wine or a cup of coffee is always enjoyed best with a friend.
7. Do you know your Stress Score?
In our office at Davis Family Chiropractic, we take care of Moms, kids, and a few Dads too. Guess what we measure on every new patient that comes into our office – How well their nervous system is adapting to stress! Did you know that we can measure your body’s stress reserve?
Our scan measures your ability to adapt through your heart rate. I will be honest and say it is super cool technology. We monitor your stress reserves as you are under chiropractic care in our office. The HRV scan presents your score where red is bad and green is good. There is a lot more to it but this is a simple way to talk about your score. With chiropractic care, we have noticed that some Moms stress scores will shift right into the green box. While some Moms require more than just chiropractic care. We will sit down and talk to Moms about their stress levels and how we can help them adapt better so their nervous system is not constantly in overdrive.
8. Slow Down
Who is thankful that it is summer time? ME!!!
The busyness of the school schedule really keeps most families on the go. Take advantage of the fact that school is out and take time to slow down with your family. Don’t over plan their activities and feel like every day or every week you need to be doing something fun or going someplace new. Some of my favorite memories of being a kid were making mudpies in the backyard with the neighbors. Kids need to be bored to encourage them to be creative and use their minds.
9. Stop Comparing
Come on Moms, raise those hands! You know you compare your job, and career, your home, your vacation, your weight to other Moms, your child’s behavior to other Moms. Let’s all be in agreement to STOP! The only person you need to focus on is you. Don’t try to keep up with your BFF. The only thing that behavior does is causes you to keep telling yourself you are not enough. You Are Enough!
10. Have Fun!
When is the last time you sat down with your husband or your kids and had a good ole’ belly laugh? Do you know how therapeutic laughter can be? Do you know that it decreases stress and releases positive emotions? Sometimes I find myself being too serious and really have to step back and just find something to smile and laugh about in my day. Laughter is good for the soul!
Mamas, how are you slowing down and thriving this summer?
Please share in the comments and check out the event below!
Don’t miss out on the Women, Wine & Wellness Event: A Goal-Setting Workshop with Davis Family Chiropractic on Tuesday, July 24th at 7:00 p.m.
It’s time to set those mid-year resolutions and make a plan to achieve them! Come reset, regroup and re-energize at this special Ladies Night at Davis Family Chiropractic. Attendees will also enjoy appetizers, Sangria beverages, and some goodies to take home. RSVP to Davis Family Chiropractic at (919) 615-2257.
Dr. Alisha Davis is a Tarheel and received her undergraduate degree from UNC and then her doctorate degree from Life Chiropractic College in 1998. Dr. Davis is married to Marc and has two teenagers! Dr. Davis chose to further her degree and received her Diplomate in Pediatrics and Pregnancy care from the Academy of Family Chiropractic Practice in 2011. She is currently one of four doctors in NC with her Diplomate degree. Dr. Davis has been practicing in Raleigh for almost 20 years and opened Davis Family Chiropractic in the fall of 2012. Her passion is providing chiropractic care to families of all ages but her specialty and passion is taking care of pregnant women and children in the Raleigh community. Learn more about Dr. Davis and her passion for pregnancy and pediatric HERE.