I have a very unique situation. I was in the trenches of narrowing down a date for some girl time when my friend nixed a proposed evening so she could spend a night with her husband. What? I was desperately trying to grab some time with her to catch up! Why does she have to see her hubby? Doesn’t she see enough of him?
Then awakening struck. I live a very unique lifestyle.
Over the last 15 years we’ve been together, Tim and I have worked ten of them side by side. Yup. It’s even how we met. Tim was assigned as my buddy at the startup I joined back in 2001. We took the Buddy System very seriously.
Fast forward to 2009 when I left corporate world to stay home with my first son, Corey. It was then that we relocated from DC to NJ and Tim started his first year as a telecommuter. In some capacity or another, we have worked from our home since 2009.
Keeping within the confides of our home, two adults and two kids, you get creative with sharing a space. Closed doors and headphones for him and strategic time playing outside or errands for me. But, Tim’s schedule was a dream! His hours were easily split up around playdates or outings or appointments. We could snag a date for breakfast or coffee instead of the evening. Our boys had access to Tim all the time! We 100% knew we were beyond lucky and never took our lifestyle for granted.
My friends told me the other day in a deep discussion about life planning (oh I know you have those with your girlfriends!) that I am very balanced in my life. I called bluff. No way! I reminded them of my willingness to head out on the town for the evening while they chose couch snuggles with their significant others. It’s hard to plan nights out when you have all day with your spouse!
But, I understand what they believe. We most definitely have a very unique setup. And as we launch our new business, we will continue the trend and work in the same space at the same time. So while it’s true, it’s hard to plan nights out when you spend all day together…we are darn lucky to be able to spend all day together.
I mean, it’s not all roses. I get it. There are lots of people that could not work that closely to their husbands. There will be more dishes left in the…no not sink, that would be too easy…left on the counter. And then there’s reminding him that work can still end at 6pm or maybe wipe the counter down after lunch prep? I could go on.
No matter what, I absolutely love working with Tim. Our biggest struggle is making sure we don’t take our time working together for granted. Knowing there is a time for work, but also a time to catch up as just couples. That is something we need to be very careful of as we embark on our new business. But I am so happy to be embarking on this with him. Full speed ahead.
Here’s to the next 10.